I
will now wade into dark and murky waters. I do not imagine I will
come out unscathed.
As
I discussed in I Want To Be Free To Be Kirk Cameron I am not opposed
to gay marriage. The central idea that governs all of my political
thought is freedom. I want to free to do what I want to do. If we
make laws abridging other peoples rights eventually it will be my
turn. I don't want anyone telling me what to do.
That
being said I think marriage is the basic unit of a civilization.
Anything that weakens that will over the course of history lead to a
degradation of a civilization. At this point we could hop down the
bunny trail of what makes a civilization great. My answer of course
is freedom and suddenly we're back where we started.
I
want to take another road.
I
want to talk about what I think weakens marriage exponentially more
than allowing homosexual couples to marry. That is no-fault divorce.
Right now in American society divorce is considered no big deal. This
has also affected the church since the divorce rate is no different
among Christians than it is in the general public. That troubles me
because getting a divorce just because you have grown apart is no
more biblical than two men marrying a Labrador.
Of
course there are circumstances that make divorce necessary. Society
as a whole takes it too casually. A divorce party should not be a
thing. It is though. I just googled it. Instead of throwing a party
to celebrate the failure of a marriage we should consider divorce to
be commensurate to murder. By that I mean something you would never
want to do, but can imagine scenarios where it would be necessary.
Why
does it matter if people marry and divorce at will? Personal
responsibility.
If
marriage is the atom of a society then personal responsibility is an
electron. In other words even more fundamental. How can a society
exist if at the level of interactions between people we can't trust
anyone. We can't believe someone when they tell us they will do a
thing. If we are to co-exist together we all have to be responsible
for our actions and mean what we say. There is no more serious case
of this than standing in front of all of your family, friends and God
(if you believe) and saying you will be with this person forever.
Here's
a little additional caveat so I don't get too beat up. I am not in a
situation where I need to even consider divorce. I am lucky. Divorce
might be the best option for you. It might be the only option. I'm
just saying it should be taken more seriously; however, I do not know
if you are taking it seriously or not. I am not you. You are you and
only you know what is best for you.
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I should note that the no-fault idea came to my attention through
this very good article.
